I am the single mother of two children.
I'm not sure if I should include my name, but I'm not including the name of my ex husband.... the one who's self employed
and difficult to collect child support from!
Anyways... I should probably include a "disclaimer"
then. So here goes... Any similarities to people or events that have occured in real life are unintentional, and
are a coincidence. So, if you know me, you probably know my ex, and yes, the situations I outline are the ones
happening with our child support case, but that's not why my site is here. It is here to draw attention to, and
hopefully help find solutions to, a common problem with "the system" by drawing attention to my own situation, without giving
out names or specifics about Mr. Quitter.
MY STORY: My ex husband left me for a foreign woman
that our government allowed him to bring into the country, marry, and make a permanent US resident whom he totally supports
financially. I find that disturbing... that a man who will not pay his American children's child support is allowed
to support a wife from outside the country. Also, last I knew he was quite a few thousand dollars behind in federal
taxes!
He is a realtor for a very prestegious real estate
firm in town. He is considered "self employed". He is ordered to pay $161 a week in child support, but only pays
when he feels like it. As long as he's "making an effort", friend of the court won't do much to help me.... In fact,
they can't legally. I have a wonderful case worker at Calhoun County friend of the court, but they have not been very
successful in their collection efforts.
Recently, I was laid off from a decent job. I have
primary custody, and have to support my two sons. So, I found the only job I could.... part time. This isn't paying
the bills. I had to go to the FIA, and they are helping the kids with $93 a month for food, and they are working on
some "child care" help so I don't have to pay as much daycare to work my piddly part time job. My ex husband won't help
me so that I can work evenings. I quote from my ex husband.... let's from here forward call him Quitter,
"I know that supporting the kids is difficult but what
you're asking is that we be a free babysitter for you while we pay you child support during this time. We're not
willing to do that."
I got $11.00 child support for the month of October.
This comment made by Quitter made me want to puke. I'm calling him Quitter because he quit on our family and ran away, it also rhymes with his high school
nickname.
I disagree with him calling himself "free child care".
He's a father. Are we supposed to get "paid" as parents? No, we are supposed to have the money to provide FOR
them. In the event that one parent does not have enough money to do so, the court ordered "child support" is intended
to balance out the households, and the person who has them the majority of the time, is entitled to more money to be able
to feed, clothe, medicate if needed, house the children etc.
My eyes are bugging out from getting this site up &
running, so more later. Please contact me with your stories, comments, or suggestions!
